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The Secrets to Staying Focused Before Your Wedding
Your engagement time is not just about planning the “Wedding Day"…it’s a walk to remember.
Its about all the little moments that lead you to the "I DO."
Let me ask you a question...what significance (outside of planning your wedding day) does your engagement period hold for you?
I know that seems like a very trivial question to ask as I am sure you’re in the midst of this time as your reading this but I really want you to search your heart motives on this one.
How many couples that you know use this time to plan and finalize every last detail for the “Big Day?” You’re probably thinking well dah…isn’t that what this time is for?
And yes of course this time will be used for all the planning but what if I was to suggest to you that that’s not the only thing you can do with this engagement period??
I have seen and heard of many couples who get caught up and lost in all the TO DO lists and extensive planning to have the most meticulously thought out and well-coordinated wedding day only to find themselves on the other side of that ONE day exhausted, run down, missing themselves and each other and then somehow wondering what it was all for as they can’t even remember the details of THEIR special day!
Wow…just reading that makes me tired haha…
I want to suggest something here that may seem a bit out of the ordinary way of thinking…stay with me on this one I promise it will be worth it.
What if you used your engagement time to deepen your relationship as a couple, to grow more with one another and to really press into the more important pre-marital matters instead of just planning for that one special day?
I firmly believe that if you use this gift of time pre-wedding to do as I have suggested above you will reap more benefits then you can imagine in the first few months if not years of marriage. After all, marriage is a life long journey built on a great foundation, so why not use the time you have now to ensure that foundation is unbreakable?
Planning a wedding should not be beyond stressful. It should not cause fights or disagreements between you and your loved ones. It should not take away from your time together as a couple. It should be focused on the joining of two families that will forever mark the changing of their generations to come.
So what is my secret here to removing the pre-wedding anxieties…spend real time with one another. Use this period of time no matter how short or long to re-direct your focus on one another. Continue to create the foundation for your marriage in this time; don’t just hit the PAUSE button on each other until after the wedding.
I encourage you to explore the deepness of marriage and be prepared to face that with each other. Get real. Be raw and genuine. Be present. Love each other. Respect one another and your families. Build that everlasting foundation that will hold through the good and the bad that life has in store for you. Use this time to come together not fall apart.
Oh and to help you focus solely on each other…hire a wedding planner LOL…no seriously get these tasks and lists off your plate by giving them to someone else (like me) so you can be with each other without all the distractions.
This is one of the best journeys for you as a couple; it is a walk to remember…
Hey Everyone! Take a look at some great tricks that I have learned to help you stay focused while planning your wedding! Love to know what you think...so drop me a comment!